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What sex mean to men.. on another level

I have a surprise for you, gentlemen: Your wife probably doesn't know how important sex is to you.

Now sure, she knows that it's important. She knows that you (very likely) want more of it than she does. She knows that you sometimes take an attitude when she is less than forthcoming. She also knows that she can use sex as a weapon, denying what she feels is a physical desire of yours.

But she probably doesn't know that it is an emotional need.

Most of my marriage articles here on hubpages are for men. Why? Because I run a forum for women about the subject of marriage. I prefer not to cross-post content and Google likes it that way, too. That's my story and I'm sticking to it!

In this case, however, I understand that this topic is so crucial to men that I wanted to give this article the most exposure possible. Guys, women just don't understand!

Now I know, I know... Women are so mysterious. There are so many things about us that you just don't "get" that it might be shocking to you that women don't understand you much better than you understand them! But it is very, very true that each gender sees the world very differently, and if we're going to be able to truly communicate, we're going to need to "get on the same page."

Sex isn't just physical
Sex isn't all about physical pleasure for a man.

It isn't Physical, Ladies!

Sure, men like sex. Most men I know love sex, even. It is a physical pleasure that is incomparable, really. But the physical element of sex is a desire, not a need to be met. Men can live their entire lives without the physical pleasure of sex.

What is more important to your husband or significant other is the emotional need that sex meets.

I understand you, ladies! You don't necessarily think that men are emotional creatures! They don't (usually) cry like we do, and they don't talk it out. They don't discuss their emotions and they don't bawl into a tub of ice cream like us. But that doesn't mean that they are not equally emotional creatures.

Like women, men want affection from their mate. Affection is equally important to members of both genders. But your husband or significant other might not be a cuddler. If he doesn't seem interested in snuggling up on the sofa to watch tearjerker films with you, it is because his need for affection simply isn't met in the same way that yours is: His need for affection is met through... You guessed it! Sex.

 

What He Hears when You Say You Have a Headache

"I have a headache" has become a common joke. Women are exhausted at the end of a day of taking care of household chores and children and don't feel that they can fit sex into their night. They might be angry with something that their significant other did during the day (or week, or month) and feel that denying him sex is appropriate revenge for his insensitivity to their needs. Or they might genuinely have a headache.

But when you tell your husband that you don't want to have sex... Or if you make up an excuse not to have sex with him, he hears your rejection, and he might become resentful. He hears you say that you don't want him, that he isn't good enough, not big enough, not fit enough.

Men are insecure creatures.

It's not a Weapon, Girls!

Sex is a genuine, emotional need for your husband or significant other. Please, please do not use this gift as a way to manipulate him or to punish him for some perceived flaw. The key is to forgive him and to give him the respect that he needs as a man. Claiming to have a headache or to be too exhausted to meet his needs is humiliating to him and makes him feel like less of a man. It undermines his self-esteem and can make him feel incredibly unappreciated. Appreciation is very important to a man!

Your husband probably feels that sex is invigorating and energizing. After a long day at work, he probably wants to relax with you: and this is his way of relaxing.

I know, I know. The modern woman is asking herself (and me) "what does it do for me?" I get you, and I get your point. We tend to be a very self-motivated society. Let's address that issue!

What does "Giving in" Get Me, the Woman?

First things first, you shouldn't be thinking about sex as "giving in" to his desires. When you married your husband, you promised to love him until death. We are meant to sacrifice for our spouse and for our children. Sometimes sex might be a sacrifice. Some nights you might just feel too tired to engage in sexual activity. And it's okay to say no. Once in a very great while.

But meeting your husband's emotional need for sex can reap great rewards for you, as well! When you give of yourself to your man, you open a part of him that you might not have seen previously. You help him to feel refreshed and appreciated. You make him feel desired and desirable. You fulfill him in a way that we as women cannot begin to imagine.

Things start to happen. He becomes more apt to ask you how your day has been, or to offer to cook dinner. He becomes more inclined to romance you a bit more (in your way, rather than his, which is unsurprisingly probably sexual). You might stop having to ask four or five times for him to take out the trash (he might do it on the first request now!).

Great things happen when you begin to meet your husband's needs. Bearing in mind that your husband has an emotional need for sex, this area of your relationship should not be neglected!

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By: http://everydaymiracles.hubpages.com/hub/Why-Sex-is-Important-to-Men

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